If you are a perfectionist, you probably know how hard it is to be yourself. Living in this alter-ego, after a while, you might start to believe that the person you're portraying to the world is not good enough. This leaves us feeling uneasy about our achievements or even worse, questioning ourselves as human beings.
This is often compounded by negative self-talk, saying things like "I am not good enough". You're constantly afraid that you might fail and often set the bar so high that you can't reach it.
We will be checking out 3 things that will get us closer to debunking perfectionism.
Here’s what you’ll learn in this video:
Dismantling The Quest for Perfectionism
5 Tips to Overcome Perfectionism and Live a Happier Life
Journey Towards Unconditional Self Acceptance
Most of us who identify as perfectionists probably don't even realize it. They are just seeing their driving desire as trying to be the best, but they are actually stuck in a pattern of self-criticism and self-devaluation. They are often taking responsibility for things that are not theirs. This cycle leads to more stress and tension, which only makes the problem worse.
The best way to break out of this pattern is to start by accepting that imperfection is part of life. Then, work on developing a compassionate and understanding mindset towards yourself. You want to set realistic expectations for yourself and don't expect things to happen overnight. But good things will happen!
It's important to break out of this cycle because it's not healthy or productive. Instead, try focusing on accepting yourself for who you are right now. That doesn't mean you have to like everything about yourself, but it does mean that you shouldn't be constantly criticizing yourself. Instead of dwelling on the past, focus on what you can do today to improve your situation.
The truth is that most perfectionists are working hard to improve themselves. Excellence, not perfectionism is the goal.
With Fortitude and Grace,